Terrie, I'm guessing you are 18, maybe 19. Is that a close guess?

Do you want a man like your younger cousin's boyfriend? Do you expect a man to have auto repair, construction, roofing, plumbing, electrical and gardening skills? Would you date a man who had none of those skills? If not, what would you date a doctor, teacher, or banker who had no interest in doing that sort of work himself?

If a man you really liked. took you out to breakfast, then spent the day repairing things around your house, mowed your lawn and took out your trash, would you be surprised, or offended, if he expected to spent the night in your bed?

Do you think that letting a man fix your car, and letting a man pay to have your car repaired is the same thing. If not, why not?

Forget other women. What is your definition of a woman? Do you meet your own standards for women? Are you everything that a man you want will want in you?

What skills do you bring to a relationship? Do you work? Can you support yourself? Are you a good cook, baker and housekeeper? Are you a good conversationalist? Are you interesting? Do you have experience taking care of other people?

If you want a husband who is the breadwinner, so you can you stay home and take care of the house and children, that's a perfectly legitimate desire. If that is what you want, say so. As long as you do your part in that kind of relationship, you have a right to live the life you want.

You do not have the right to tell other people that they must live their lives, your way. You do not have the right to judge other people, or their relationships.

Be kind and stay out of other people's relationships.