Carol, I agree with you. While I used different words, I wrote the same thing in the article.

"Between men and women, an 800-pound gorilla and an elephant are standing in the room. The “800 pound gorilla” is the dangerous, back-breaking, physical labour done by men that women are pretending not to see. The “elephant” is the work done by women, that men are pretending not to see.

Human relationships are two-way streets. Until men and women confront the gorilla and the elephant, they will never see each other clearly. Sympathy is not enough. Not only are babies born of hard and dangerous labour, empathy is too."