Baby Cakes, I'm starting to worry about you. It sounds like you've known very few men, and have very little, if any work experience - is that true? If it is true, you might want to get a job, so you can build a life on your own terms.

This is 2023, and there is not a job that women have not done.

Right now, my 108-pound daughter is building two homes from the ground up, with her own two hands. She stays out on the land alone without power, water or internet several days a week, and comes home to finish restoring another home that she just put on the market for sale.

She designed both homes and obtained permits, then drove the equipment to put in roads and dig trenches to underground our power, internet and water lines, and install the septic systems. She's been running on generator power for months and uses power tools, including those that run off an air compressor. She framed the houses, installed the electrical and plumbing, roofing, etc. hung the drywall, doors and windows, installed plumbing fixtures, tiled the bathroom and kitchen and installed hard wood flooring throughout. She has power now and is getting ready to start building cabinetry and finish work, and put in ;lighting fixtures. Appliances will arrive next week. etc. etc. etc.

Her husband, my son-in-law, works 12- 14 hours a day from a home office here in town, travels for work a lot, and still spends a couple weekends a month helping with the house building. I work out there a couple weeks a month as well and spent all last week cutting tile and trim, then filling and sanding. The only reason, they can afford those homes and that huge piece of property is because they do the work themselves.

That is the reason, I am getting worried about you and your "fuck my life" perspective. Baby Cakes, don't let a bunch of spoiled women who think feminism is a game, a cause, or charity work, convince you that men are holding you back, and you have no hope of independence. Men respect women who work and treat them accordingly.